🍋 Asian Parents Stories: A Nightmare
They hate peace.
They hate conversations, everything is a fight or a shouting match.
They hate it when you have autonomy.
They hate your friends.
They hate when you have a social life or hang out.
🍋 Asian Parents favourite words: "HURRY, HURRY, HURRY, HURRY"
They are constantly rushed and stressed.
Everything must be “fast, fast, fast” as if life was a never-ending competition.
Eat fast, walk fast, talk fast, etc.
They would tell us to hurry up and get dressed because we're going to the grocery store literally in 3 minutes.
They had all the time in the world to get ready, but we had to run and hurry to catch up with them. Otherwise, they would yell at us and curse at us.
🍋 They are constantly getting annoyed about small things
Every small thing, they turn it into a whole mission and they act like it's a really big thing.
They cannot accept opinions other than their own, and become pushy and forceful even if you politely push back with "no thank you"
🍋 There is no privacy
They enter you room without knocking.
AND they don’t close your room door after they leave your room.
They also sniff into your personal belongings and will dig as deep as they can, in every little detail, drawing irrational, paranoid conclusions out of it
They are petty, cranky and illogical, yet call everyone else “stupid”.
🍋 Asian mothers always keep themselves “busy” with useless tasks, and then claim that “no one is helping her”
Declining help but complaining about it afterwards:
When you ask your Asian mother whether she needs help:
Mum: “No need, you’ll make things worse”
You: “Ok then.” *walks away*
Mum: “Nobody helps me in this house!!!”
🍋 Asking you invasive questions before you go out:
“Where are you going? Who are you going out with?
How are you going? What time are you coming home?
Why are you wearing a skirt?
What is your friend’s contact number? What is your friend’s mother’s name?”
🍋 Asking questions that state the obvious:
“You sleeping ah?” No, I’m meditating on my back.
“Going out ah?” No, I’m going outside to sunbathe.
“Came back already ah?” No, you’re hallucinating.
“Just showered ah?” No, there was a thunderstorm in the bathroom.
🍋 Shouting for you when you’re not in the same room:
They call for you and expect you to hear them even if you’re not in the same room.
Somehow, it always ends with them scolding you for not attending to them immediately – as if their idiotic requests were something important.
🍋 They have a weird relationship with food
I grew up with my mom constantly calling me fat, but at the same time getting upset when I don’t want to eat her gigantic portions of food.
She also just HAS to cook like crazy when my friends come over, even when I tell her not to.
And then proceeds to call my friends “disrespectful” for not eating all of her food.
(always this old Asian obsession with “respect” in the smallest aspects of life)
🍋 They constantly argue about one thing, and then about its opposite.
It’s not about the food, or the grades.
It always about expressing power and maintaining control.
Asian parents will take advantage of any opportunity to exert power and control over you.
They will even manufacture a perfect storm that will create drama and force you into a weak position for them to exploit.
🍋 Every little thing you do is being scrutinized
The way you walk, the way you talk, the way you don’t talk.
What you eat, how you eat, where you eat.
They will make you socially crippled in your formative years, and then threaten that you’ll live a horrible life in their absence.
They’ll compare you to “normal people” and forget that normal environment is necessary to raise normal people.
🍋 Asian parents live in constant fear
It’s always “what if”.
And they avoid risk at all costs.
🍋 Punishment rather than Encouragement
Asians think the only way a child will learn is if he is punished.
They do not understand encouragement and positive reinforcement, only threats, anger and punishment
🍋 Children must be absolutely obedient
Children are taught to be obedient in a way that they are not allowed to question the parents on anything.
As a result, they grew up in such an environment that they not dare to voice out any concerns, and become a ‘yes-man’ at work.
🍋 They love “authority”
Which is probably why most of their countries are run by some sort of military dictatorship in disguise
🍋 Asian parenting is basically “I fed you and gave you shelter”
For them it’s already a big deal.
They think that’s all parenting is.
🍋 Everything is about their FACE, they don't care about you at all
All they care is what they THINK others will talk about…
Which only happen in their mind, but they lose "face" in their imagination.
They are more afraid that "others" will talk bad about them than their child dying from illness.
>>> You cannot say such madness comes from “poverty”
In the rest of the world, even people who experienced war trauma do not behave like neurotic Asians from developed cities like Seoul, Taipei or Singapore.
It’s like neuroticism is embedded in their genes.
Being brought up in such families just makes you feel anxious all the time.
The only thing you do is run from fear lurking around everywhere, based on the anxiety and fears they build up in you.
Asian Parents don't consider their kids human. Just objects that have utility.
Like the human wave tactic during the Korean war. A lot of dead Chinese at the cost of a stalemate at the border.
Dumb but hardworking: the Asian way.
I didn’t truly have peace until after my Asian parents died.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/
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